You don’t have to fail if you have the right mindset
In this post, we look at how to take the how to make sure you NEVER fail again! Take the word “FAILURE” out of your vocabulary and life for GOOD! With the right mindset, you’ll realize that the bumps in the road – what some call “FAILURES” – are actually just an opportunity to recalibrate.
When expectations and outcome are inconsistent.
It’s that simple. When you fail, it isn’t the end. It isn’t a lack of success. In fact, many failures are necessary points ON THE WAY TO YOUR DESIRED OUTCOME. We need to train ourselves and our children how to fail. Today you’re going to create a new relationship with failure.
When you fail, it’s a point in time when:
STRATEGY + RESOURCES + PREPARATION + ENERGY ≠ EXPECTATIONS
That’s it. It’s not the end. It’s a time to re-evaluate and revise how or what we’re doing. Failure only exists when we make a choice to STOP our quest because we didn’t get what we wanted AT THAT MOMENT.
Here’s a news flash … that’s going to happen A LOT. Most of us live with unfulfilled expectations every single day. The key is to keep going in spite of this and to look at the four components of how to come closer to reaching our expectations! Let’s go through them now.
How not to fail 1: revise your Strategy
Look back at the steps you’ve taken to reach the point in time you’re choosing to evaluate your progress. If you expected to be further along or to have a completely different outcome entirely, then you may need to come up with a new plan of attack. Or, at very least, revise the steps you’ve taken to redirect your approach.
how not to fail 2: use the right resources
What are the ingredients you’ve employed up to this point. If you’re not getting the result you desire, it could be because the pieces aren’t all there yet. This could be material, human, natural, and/or financial resources that are essential to get you to where you want to go.
how not to fail 3: do your full preparation
If you don’t do the steps that are needed then you won’t get the expected results! Look at your strategy. Did you do every step involved? Was there training that was needed before you could employ your strategy? This isn’t a time to be lazy (unless you’re doing a sleep study. lol), it’s time to put in the work that is needed to fully realize your strategy and see if it delivers!
how not to fail 4: energy
How does our high school science lesson go? Energy is the capacity to do work. If you don’t put in the required energy, then you won’t be able to do the necessary work. This might mean you need to simply try harder OR you might need more preparation to reach your expectations.
How not to fail 5: expectations
Is it possible, that your expectations are NOT in line with where you are AT THIS MOMENT in time? It’s not to say that you shouldn’t reach beyond your current abilities. That’s how we grow so you absolutely should CHALLENGE YOURSELF. Yet your expectations need to be achievable or perhaps better said, conceivable.
Case Study 1: Carol wants to have $1,000,000 in her bank account by the time she’s 25.
If Carol is 24 at the time she set this expectation and doesn’t have a job, a plan, and is sitting on the couch everyday watching soap operas then this expectation is out of line.
Case Study 2: Fran wants to have $1,000,000 in her bank account by the time she’s 25.
If Fran is 24 and already has $900,000 saved through working hard and investing her earnings using a strategy that has proven effective, then this is conceivable. She has benchmarks that will get her to the $1,000,000 point in time for her 25th birthday that are in line with her performance to date.
Conclusion: The expectation of having $1,000.000 isn’t unconceivable. It’s simply the components needed to reach it are not in line in Case Study 1, where as they are in Case Study 2.
So, has Carol failed? Yes, if she stops now, however, if she revises her equation then she can reach an expectation in line with her strategy, resources, preparation, and energy. That might mean that her benchmark turns to 30. It’s all part of growing and learning and making the most out of each and every day of our lives.
are you ready to change your equation?
Take a look at where you are in life. Where are you NOW? Do you have sorrows? What are your dreams? What makes your heart happy?
Answer these questions and write down your expectations for yourself and then create a plan. A plan that establishes exactly your strategy, resources, preparation, and energy to reach your expectation. Set a benchmark to evaluate this equation and adapt… or give it more time. Just DON’T STOP!
When to stop? You can stop when you no longer have the same expectations you set for yourself at an earlier point. If so, then stopping isn’t quitting. It’s growing. Can you imagine if you had the same goals 15 years ago as you have now? If your day-to-day was exactly the same? Reflect for a moment and see if you’re missing out on reaching your potential.
It may be time to set some new expectations. Give yourself permission to dream and see what makes your heart happy. When you do, you can then write your equation and see how you feel each day you wake up. I can guarantee that you see your life in a new way!
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We all deserve to feel what it’s like to wake up each day and feel good about ourselves. It’s often just how we perceive success and failure. I hope this gives you a new way to look at what it means to fail and how you can turn it around in 5 quick steps!
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